Tales of a Holiday Single....

Let me start this post by saying we are entering my favorite time of the year!! I love the Christmas Season...the good feeling, great tidings, time spent with friends/family, and just the general feel in the air that there are good things happening. I love how people are more giving and forgiving during this time of year. I love all the holiday get togethers and trying new holiday dishes/drinks. There is hardly anything about this season that I don't like!!!

Here is the deal, once again I find myself single during the Holidays. I am actually quite good at being single this time a year. The last 3 years I have had 3 different relationships...1) lasted March to November 2) lasted January to November (at least I got Valentines day LOL) and 3) lasted March to August. I think I am cursed with the Thanksgiving to New Year's curse!!!

There are some plus' to this...I don't have to split my holidays between his (fictional man of my dreams that is playing a pretty good game of hide and seek) and my family. I can go to all the holiday gatherings and flirt my little tushy off in hopes of finding my dream guy in the haystack (so to speak). I can make plans with friends and not worry about planning around someone else's schedule.

Here is my one minus, though I am sure there are more. I guess the one thing I miss is having someone to snuggle with around the fireplace watching TV. As silly as it sounds, and as great as my friends and dogs are, I miss the companionship of someone who only has eyes for me. It is just the beginning of the season, I don't usually get this moment of loneliness until closer to New Years.

So I found myself early (really early shouldn't have been awake it was so darn early) staring at my ceiling making a dateworthy checklist!!! Dateworthy (and Stolie you will love this) is a self-help book (one of my hundreds that I have read) that I started reading a few days ago. This one I like because it has actual lists that you make. I love having a goal written down that I can check off and say I have done!! The great thing about this book is it makes you make a list of what is Dateworthy about you. How to get yourself to Dateworthyness and how to recognize when you are ready.

So I made a Dateworthy checklist (mind you this is not a complete list but the ones I always seem to miss), that is also my Holiday Single gal wishlist for a partner....

1) Must be emotionally available to me (I have to be specific about this one because I tend to pick guys that date me because I am safe. I restore their faith in women then they travel on to other women because they are whole).
2) Must not be so wrapped up in themselves that they do not see the people around them are important too (no more self-centered, arrogant, it's all about me guys)
3) Must be willing to be partners (both have needs/wants, it must be 50/50)
4) Must be willing to leave the past in the past (I will not ask about their ex's, past partners, ect....other than for health reasons which can be cleared up by a piece of paper. I don't need to know the specifics...unless there is a child involved and the ex is still in the picture that way)
5) Must be the kind of guy that I am proud of and that is proud of me (must be willing to introduce to family/friends with no hesitation)
6) Must have an emotional connection to a higher power (I believe in God, I am not asking that he does but he must have faith in something that is of a higher power than him. I think it would be to hard for him to understand my faith without them having faith also).
7) Must love dogs (Seems like an odd deal-breaker but I love my dogs and I am not willing to get rid of them for a guy)

There are several more but this Holiday Single Gal decided this was a good start. It also helped with that 5 seconds of loneliness that I was feeling last night. Who knows, maybe next year I will break my curse but until then I am going to enjoy my Holidays single style!!!